Ok< SINCE WE POSTED WHAT S SADLER HAS TO SAY, I WILL POST WHAT THIS WOMAN HAS TO SAY.  THE FACTS ARE MUST GREATER THAN THIS WOMAN HAS PRIVY TO, BUT HER OPINION IS WELCOME IN RESPECT TO LAUREN.  THIS WILL BE THE LAST POST ABOUT THE INCIDENT, SO PLEASE LET HER REST AND SHARE IN HER MEMORY NOT THE PAIN OF THOSE LEFT BEHIND.  WE FEEL FOR EVERYONE INVOLVED IN THIS TRAGEDY, BUT HIS SITE IS FOR LAUREN ONLY.

Lets start out with the definiton of chaperone -- a chaperone is someone who accompanies and supervises young people.  From what I have read you were the responsible "adult" on this trip and are soley responsible for the outcome -- the death of an "18" year old "young" women.  You say she accompanied your family on this trip-- the minute you agreed for her to come along you where her chaperone -- period -- and responsible for her well being.  At the end of the day that is what the truth  is -- but it seems "you can't handle the truth."

Being underage how under your supervision could she have been served alcohol.   If she was properly being chaperoned she would not have had access to someone providing it for her and if someone did you should have been there and taken it away immediately.  Also, what was this young women doing out of her room at that hour of the night again as the chaperone you should have made sure she was in the room. To bad it sounds like it was inconvenient for you to go and check her room from time to time a responsibility of a chaperone that goes without saying.

As far as the family suing you -- good for them -- if that's what it takes for you to face up to your responsibility more power to them.  It is also highly unlikey they gained monetarlly in any way  after paying attorneys, etc. there probably wasn't anything left.  Anyone familar with attorney and court fees would realize this.

It seems like alot of young people are responding -- just wait someday you will have children -- remember what you said about the actions this family has taken and see if you still feel the same way then -- bet you don't.

As for you "chaperone" -- your day will come -- we all have to answer to a higher power someday!

Bet this doesn't even get posted -- but thats alright the one that needs to see this will -- you think about what I said -- if I were you I would be on bended knee begging this family for forgiveness not expoliting them on this fabricated memorial site that has obviously been created to air your twisted view of the death of this young women.

There are many attempted posts that are disrespectful of Lauren, her friends and her family

That's because her family cheapened her memory by filing a frivolous lawsuit against the chaperone.  If they didn't want Lauren to be disrespected, they should have been embarassed by her conduct, grieved in private, and let the blame lay where it belongs, on Lauren.  By cashing in the way they did, they basically pimped her out after her death.  Her family should be ashamed of themselves.

There are many attempted posts that are disrespectful of Lauren, her friends and her family that will not be shown on this site.  The drama is over.  Let's let the site be what it was intended a memorial to Lauren who we miss.  Lauren was a beautiful, energetic girl with many friends and family.  She loved life and enjoyed it.  Let's now just think of all the good times we had with her.

The facts:

The truth..Lauren traveled with my daughter and son and I on our vacation to include a cheerleading event.  National Cheerleading Association (NCA )was to chaperone  the girls starting the next day.  Lauren was 18 years old.  Lauren's parents signed a consent form that they released NCA from liability.  The girls were to be in their own rooms for the week starting the next day.   The girls were given a curfew (the same one Michelle and Lauren were given on a cruise with Lauren's family the prior summer), they were told to not leave the resort and to check in.  Within 15 minutes they had left the hotel with complete strangers (they have met without my knowledge while I was checking the group into the hotel) to ride around the island and get alcohol. They came in at midnight to change into their suits and go to the hot tub at which time there was no sign of alcohol.  They hid and mixed drinks into big gulp cups and went out around the resort.  Lauren met a strange boy, she left the girls and she went to his room.  Lauren called Michelle at 1:30 AM to say she would make curfew, she never showed up.  Lauren fell to her death around 2 AM.

This is a tragedy, one my family will forever relive.  We have prayed for healing of Lauren's family and peace for all the lives she had touched.  Lauren was an amazing young adult, who unfortunately just make some poor choices that cost her her life.  Although we were not happy with the lawsuit, we understand that Lauren's family has not been able to face the facts of the case and have refused to even read the facts of the police reports and other depositions that detailed her activities on that terrible night.  They have chosen to blame us based on what they want to believe.  They want to believe that I could have prevented Lauren from going out.  As any parent can relate, I would have eventually had to sleep and she would have gone out anyway, just the same as we have learned they did after curfew on the cruise with her parents. 

We can not bring Lauren back, but we can use this to educate other young adults on the consequences of their actions.  Please do not hesitate to support programs for young adults that need chaperones to survive.  I have since taken others with my famly in travels with great success and had with many prior successes before Lauren. 

Let's put this to rest, move forward and prayer for healing and forgiveness. 

I think it's ridiculous in today's world that, when something goes wrong, we immediately look for someone to blame and hold liable. While I feel for your loss I don't think anyone should be blaming anyone other than Lauren. We shouldn't treat teenagers like they're children; they are old enough to make their own decisions with guidance and certainly should (by that age) understand consequences as well the difference between right and wrong. I same shame on those who filed suit for, did it bring Lauren back? Do you feel anymore at peace now that you have a judgment against someone?

Obviously, the answer is no....so I ask; why damage two lives simply because one was lost on the individual's own accord and actions?

In the end, I think Parents need to do a much better job educating and confronting young people when it comes to alcohol and drugs. I know it can be tough, but we have to put ourselves in their shoes in order to connect

Lauren,

Today you can finally rest, the fighting is over.  Peace be with you.  We will never forget you and that smile. 

Ill always miss your smiling face out on the softball field..That fiesty yet sweet personality made everyone second guess not to mess with you...You put all the guys in place as well as the girls and held our softball team strong to the end...All of those games were never the same without you..Thank you for being our angel..you'll be forever missed..1985-2004 always and forever..xoxo